Love Starts With You
For most of my life, I lived as though I were unlovable. I thought love had abandoned me, that it was something meant for others but never for me. What I didn’t understand was that love wasn’t the problem—I was.
I didn’t allow love into my life because I didn’t believe I was worthy of it. I had built walls around my heart, convincing myself that I didn’t deserve connection or care. And when love did show up, I didn’t recognize it. I didn’t trust it. Instead, I chased it away, leaving no fertile ground for it to grow.
But here’s the truth: Love doesn’t start with others. Love starts with you.
A change of Heart
It was September 2023. I was still recovering from my motorcycle accident—a moment in time that had broken me physically but started to mend something within my soul. Late one Thursday evening, I received a call from a dear friend.
“I have an event you should go to,” she said. “It starts tomorrow morning and lasts three days.”
Every physical instinct told me to say no. I had every excuse ready: I wasn’t strong enough, I didn’t know what to expect, and I wasn’t sure I wanted to face whatever might come up in a room full of strangers.
But something shifted in me after my accident. For the first time, I felt a glimmer of love—something I couldn’t explain but couldn’t deny. I started to wonder: Maybe God does want me here. Maybe I do have a purpose.
So, I said yes.
I had no idea what I’d just committed to.
The battle for love
Those three days turned into six. The program was called Refined You, and it changed everything.
In that room, I fought the hardest battles of my life—not alone, but with others who were fighting their own wars. We were strangers, yet each of us carried the same weight: beliefs that we weren’t enough, lies that filled us with shame, and pain that isolated us from the world and from ourselves.
We didn’t fight with judgment. We fought with love and compassion. Together, we tore down the lies we had believed for years, replacing them with truths rooted in grace and understanding.
The truths I discovered at Refined You were taught without judgment, only love. The lessons did not come from other but from inside of me. Refind You helped me understand that we all walk imperfect paths. Instead of judging one another, we have the power to lift each other up, to show compassion and understanding for the unique battles we’ve faced.
Seeing Myself Through Love
For the first time in my life, I could look in the mirror and see someone I loved. Someone I had compassion for. Someone deserving of connection, joy, and care.
The accident didn’t heal me—it opened me. It made space for love to enter my life, and in that space, I began to see my own worth. I realized that my value was never something I had to earn. It had always been there, waiting for me to embrace it.
The same is true for you.
You have immense value and worth. Not because of what you’ve done or what you’ll achieve, but simply because you are. Your DNA comes from God. The limits you feel, the lies you believe—they’re just that: lies.
Discover Your Worth
Love starts with you. It starts with letting go of the judgment you hold for yourself and replacing it with compassion. It starts with recognizing that your path, no matter how messy, is yours—and it’s sacred.
When you look in the mirror, I hope you see what I see now: a person deserving of love, connection, and infinite worth.
You don’t have to do anything to earn love. You don’t have to change who you are to be worthy. You already are.
Discover your worth. Know your value. And let love in. It’s been waiting for you all along.